More snow last night- it is so pretty- or, at least, it will be once it gets light! The dogs have been out and are snuffling around as I wipe the snow off their paws and get their breakfast ready.
I have a number of major house projects underway. The biggest is having two of the upstairs bathrooms redone. I am bracing for workmen (work people? Will there be any work-women?) to be in and out of the house for a few weeks.
But most of the projects are mine! Purchased furniture to assemble, baseboards to paint, paintings and mirrors to hang; rearrange this and that, switch out this carpet for that. This is all in anticipation of selling this house, probably 3-5 years from now. But every time we've sold a house, we've done major fix-up projects just before selling- and said to ourselves, gee, we really should have done these before, so we could have enjoyed them ourselves. So this is the Before!
Having these projects is very satisfying. I am enjoying the nesting, the cocooning. And I am specifically enjoying having sober time in the evenings to work on these things. In the Old Days (that is, more than 6 weeks ago, giggle), I would have intentions of working on something of an evening, and probably even get a preliminary step or two done while having my first glass or two of wine- before deciding that it was really too much trouble, I'd wait til tomorrow, and just curl up with this book or magazine.
This is a Big Benefit of Evening Sobriety: Working on various projects or artwork- and Finishing! And feeling so Satisfied!!
Wolfie has been staying away for a bit now- but I'm keeping my eye out for him. Husband's big Christmas Party is on Friday. With a new set of co-workers, none of whom I've met before. In the past this would be a Major Evening for Mr. Wolfie. I am determined that it will not be this time.
But I am not feeling sanguine. Yes, I could skip the event- but my sweetie is really eager for me to meet the people he works with. And since we are doing this Commuting Relationship thing these day- me working here, and him working a 5 hour drive away, in his own condo during the week- I feel that these events that reinforce our caring for each other are important. If I said, I Just Can't Do It- he would be supportive, but disappointed. And I'd rather not disappoint him. So I am working on a new, enhanced set of Anti-Wolfie Armor for that evening. (with my encouragement, he is following what I write on this blog. It's OK, Sweetie, I can do it!!)
I have a number of major house projects underway. The biggest is having two of the upstairs bathrooms redone. I am bracing for workmen (work people? Will there be any work-women?) to be in and out of the house for a few weeks.
But most of the projects are mine! Purchased furniture to assemble, baseboards to paint, paintings and mirrors to hang; rearrange this and that, switch out this carpet for that. This is all in anticipation of selling this house, probably 3-5 years from now. But every time we've sold a house, we've done major fix-up projects just before selling- and said to ourselves, gee, we really should have done these before, so we could have enjoyed them ourselves. So this is the Before!
Having these projects is very satisfying. I am enjoying the nesting, the cocooning. And I am specifically enjoying having sober time in the evenings to work on these things. In the Old Days (that is, more than 6 weeks ago, giggle), I would have intentions of working on something of an evening, and probably even get a preliminary step or two done while having my first glass or two of wine- before deciding that it was really too much trouble, I'd wait til tomorrow, and just curl up with this book or magazine.
This is a Big Benefit of Evening Sobriety: Working on various projects or artwork- and Finishing! And feeling so Satisfied!!
Wolfie has been staying away for a bit now- but I'm keeping my eye out for him. Husband's big Christmas Party is on Friday. With a new set of co-workers, none of whom I've met before. In the past this would be a Major Evening for Mr. Wolfie. I am determined that it will not be this time.
But I am not feeling sanguine. Yes, I could skip the event- but my sweetie is really eager for me to meet the people he works with. And since we are doing this Commuting Relationship thing these day- me working here, and him working a 5 hour drive away, in his own condo during the week- I feel that these events that reinforce our caring for each other are important. If I said, I Just Can't Do It- he would be supportive, but disappointed. And I'd rather not disappoint him. So I am working on a new, enhanced set of Anti-Wolfie Armor for that evening. (with my encouragement, he is following what I write on this blog. It's OK, Sweetie, I can do it!!)
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